“Think of love as this path you’re going down, and all of a sudden there’s an object in the way on this path…and you have to go around it. That object is pretty much ourselves, and we look at it and we judge the object. We might even develop a relationship with that object, or we might move ourselves and put another object, or another person…in the way of that path. As long as there was a subject or an object, I learned, then I wasn’t going to experience the true nature of being, the true nature of my life.”

Zenju Earthlyn Manuel, “The Privilege of Expressing Love and Receiving It,” (San Francisco Zen Center)

(edited for clarity from an informal talk)